My Parents' Keeper: Adult Children of the Emotionally Disturbed

My Parents' Keeper: Adult Children of the Emotionally Disturbed❰KINDLE❯ ❅ My Parents' Keeper: Adult Children of the Emotionally Disturbed Author Eva Marian Brown – Oaklandjobs.co.uk Eva Brown who coined the acronym 'ACMI' Adult Children of the Mentally Ill wrote this book as a supportive and encouraging guide for dealing with the challenging legacy of growing up with a mentally i Eva Brown who coined Keeper: Adult PDF/EPUB å the acronym 'ACMI' Adult Children of the Mentally Ill wrote this book as a supportive and encouraging guide for dealing with the challenging legacy of growing up with a mentally ill parent Richly peppered with uotes from interviews with ACMIs My Parent's Keeper covers issues ranging from being a 'parentified child' to dealing with unstable aging parents. I think the word survivor can be lopsided or rather this concept congratulates surviving as an end result while masking its painful price It's not easy for people who perceive themselves as survivors to accept that surviving has incurred a cost to themselves and others that help and guidance may be needed But once that mental acceptance comes it makes a difference in every way The author's point on how ACMIs build their lives around being in control and exhibit self punishing behavior is particularly poignant Coming to terms that circumstances are often out of our hands helps us make peace with the past and do our best to live in the present We are less defined by what happens to us than how we choose to respond to it Such recognition frees courage from fear nurtures it to grow beyond the bare need for survival and extend into a future that although unpredictable is full of possibilities and choices Short read Yet confronting enough Half the book is on practical suggestions around the issue of assertiveness and working with boundaries and communication in relationship Brown provides a model of how to assess level of risk of such communication which seems very useful and straightforward Really it's a lesson in titration There's a whole chapter giving an example utilizing this approach This is encouraging however she notes that the process of learning a new way of relating is long with many emotionalpsychological obstacles along the way that will need addressing She also provides many alternative ways to look at oneself; this is helpful along with uotes from those who struggle with parentification issues The last five pages for helping professionals seem a mere token but are packed with valuable information A very short book on a topic that is rarely addressed as clearly and compassionately A helpful book for those who are just beginning in self recovery from emotionally abusive parents with a practical approach that is easy to followI found the first chapter describing the perspective of the child in a chaotic family most helpful as well as chapter four that describes how these childhood events and subseuent emotional patterns leads to a tendency to avoid intimacy as an adult Excellent book Focuses on the repercussions for the adult child rather than behaviors of the parent which is very helpful Also Brown's book is grounded in the encouraging premise that growth and happiness are possible An easy read with helpful insight into behaviors adult children of the emotionally ill exhibit and how to work through them as well I read this in 1993

My Parents' Keeper: Adult Children of the Emotionally
  • Paperback
  • 152 pages
  • My Parents' Keeper: Adult Children of the Emotionally Disturbed
  • Eva Marian Brown
  • English
  • 15 June 2014
  • 9780934986786